When I Can't He Can by Danielle Busby


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It is kind of funny to think about, but have you noticed how some of the people who inspire us the most are the ones that did what they were told they could not do? Here’s an example, "No way, you can't land on the moon. That is impossible”, but they did, and we are still talking about it today. I am a strong-willed person, so when someone tells me I can’t do something, it fuels me to go after that very thing. I love a good challenge, but what happens when God throws a BIG curve ball in YOUR life plan, and you are instantly faced with all the potential I cant’s?  


When God chose me to have the first set of all girl quintuplets in America, I was instantly scared and shaken. I was faced with an intense feeling that told me I can’t do this. I had to learn to accept the truth that I was right – this is NOT something I can do. I must depend on God’s strength in me to carry out this plan. I have to strive to be righteous, which comes down to having faith in Jesus. Paul explains this in Romans. Once we acknowledge we can’t do this thing alone, we can do anything because HE is our strength!


Righteousness depends not on what we can do, but on what God has already done.


“For we live by faith, not by sight.”  2 Corinthians 5:7


 “So that your faith might not rest on human wisdom, but on God’s power.”  2 Corinthians 2:5 


Over the last few years of my life, I have heard these phrases specifically directed at me:

  • "Danielle, your body cannot handle the stress of a high-risk quintuplet pregnancy."
  • "Danielle, you cannot deliver five healthy babies."
  • "Danielle, you cannot breast feed/pump for five babies."
  • "Danielle, you cannot survive on one income."

And the one that is thrown out daily is this, “Danielle, your marriage can not and will not survive”.


What do you do with comments like this? Especially the ones that are thrown directly at you? 


You must remember who you are, and whose you are. God chose me, in spite of me! Despite my failures, sins and flaws. It’s so humbling to know He saw me fit to become the Mother to these sweet girls. I was faced with a difficulty, scary, and unknown life change, and I’ll tell you, my doubts were strong. Faith transforms the heart, and it will give you the ability to prosper when you are faced with all of life’s cants.


To all the "Danielle you cant’s" I shared above, I have to say…everyone was right. I couldn’t, but I had faith that God would give my body the ability to have a healthy high-risk pregnancy. He enabled me to nourish all five girls. I had faith that God would protect these babies in my womb until we reached the Doctor's delivery goal, and He did. I had faith that God would allow my body to produce enough breast milk for my five NICU babies, even when I was not able to produce any milk with my first child, and He did. I had faith that God would provide for us when we went from a family of three to eight overnight. I was faced with the decision to stop working, which inevitably meant raising our family on one income, and He provided. I had faith that God would protect my marriage, even with all these new challenges, and He has. I know I can’t do this new life of mine well on my own, but by trusting in God and relying on His strength, I can do this new crazy, wild, hard, stressful life well because He gives me the ability to do it.


God is faithful, and we can hold tightly to his hand knowing He is stronger than we are. He will lead you in the right direction. He will give you the strength needed to walk the path He leads you down. Have Confidence in a faithful God.


Hebrews 11:1 Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen.


Father, it can be so hard for us as humans to acknowledge and admit the things we can't do. I pray You will begin a fresh work among us, to show us that even when our strength is gone and we feel like we can’t more forward, you always can. I pray we will strive to know you more, to ask the hard questions and to dig into your word for the answers.


Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what's to come.